Dr. Shirley Glass
Quiz: Just Friends or
The Slippery Slope
In the new crisis of infidelity, platonic friendships and workplace relationships are turning into emotional affairs, usually gradually, often without premeditation. Parties cross boundaries of emotional intimacy, sharing intimate information with a friend that is usually appropriately the exclusive territory of a husband or wife. When emotional boundaries are overstepped, the partner has taken the first step onto the slippery slope leading to emotional and eventually sexual infidelity. Even if the infidelity is "only" emotional, it often leads to a double life of deception and sexuality, threatening once secure marriages.
If you recognize that your friendship or your partner's friendship may be in the danger zone of too much emotional intimacy, use this awareness to address concerns about your marriage. This quiz will help you see where you stand.
Quiz: Has Your Friendship Become an Emotional Affair?*
Directions: Check Yes or No to the left of each statement.
You get one point each for yes to questions 1, 2, 6, 7, 8, and one point each for no to 3, 4, 5.
If you scored near 0, this is just a friendship.
*This quiz by Shirley P. Glass was first printed in USA Today (June 20, 1988) in an article by Karen Peterson, "When platonic relationships get too close for comfort," p. 6D.